Nigerian Lady Sparks Debate Online After Advising Women to Be “Dragons” in Marriage

A Nigerian woman has sparked intense reactions online after advising women to make their partners “fear” them in relationships and marriage.

In a viral video, she urged women to ensure that the man they intend to marry is scared of them even before a relationship begins. According to her, being soft, calm, or operating in “feminine energy” gives men the chance to take advantage of women, and establishing fear early ensures respect and prevents mistreatment.

She stated that when a man knows he is dating a “mad person” or a “dragon,” he will think twice before misbehaving. “In a relationship or in marriage, if you want to marry, you need to marry a husband who fears you. Before you start a relationship, make sure the guy is scared of you, so that before he does anything, he remembers, ‘I am dating a mad person; if I come back, she will scatter the house,’” she said.

The woman also suggested that women should be intimidating not only to their husbands or boyfriends but also to their children, insisting that fear brings respect and control in the home. She repeatedly described women as “dragons” that must be feared in order to avoid being treated poorly or taken for granted.

The video quickly went viral on social media, drawing a wide spectrum of reactions. Some users found her advice humorous and entertaining, while many criticized it, warning that promoting fear in relationships could encourage toxic dynamics and potentially damage marriages.

Social media users shared their opinions.

@depanther77 commented, “I said it and I will say it again, women love simps so that they can control.”

@iam_sexitade joked, “Dragon ke… she be Ladude’s daughter.”

@omolyaake_shabz advised, “Marry someone who understands and respects you. Forget about the dragon parts.”

@Odogwu_Rico wrote, “Dragon well done. Keep making a lot of ladies single mothers.”

@Billions1430 added, “Till you marry Zubby Michael or Liquid Metal.”

The video continues to spark discussion online, with many questioning whether fear should ever play a role in healthy relationships. Experts often advise that trust, communication, and mutual respect, rather than intimidation, are the pillars of a strong and lasting partnership.