A Nigerian woman identified as Adasu has advised men to allow their children to remain with their mothers when a marriage ends, especially when they plan to remarry. Her appeal came after a tragic incident involving a 16 year old girl who died by suicide in her neighbourhood.
The chemical engineer, who shared the incident on Tuesday December 9, 2025, revealed that the teenage girl consumed a poisonous substance known as Otapiapia on Saturday while her father and stepmother were at church. She died the following morning.
According to Adasu, the girl left a heartbreaking note for her father before taking the substance. The note read, “Your mistake is no more dad. I erased it.” She added that the girl had been living with her father and stepmother, a situation she believed contributed to the tragedy.
“We just lost a very young, pretty girl in the neighbourhood this morning. Yesterday, while her parents were in church, she drank Otapiapia. The note she left on the table for her dad read, Your mistake is no more dad, I erased it. She is just 16 and has been living with her dad and stepmum. I think that tells the whole story. The doctor pronounced her dead this morning,” she wrote.
In her message, Adasu urged men to consider the wellbeing of their children when custody decisions arise during divorce. She argued that many stepchildren face hardship in the care of stepmothers, stressing that only a few women treat their husbands’ children as their own.
“If your marriage goes south, and I pray it does not, but if you ever think of divorce, please allow the children to go with the mother if you know you are going to get married again. Women do not naturally love another person’s children the same way. No matter how kind or lovely a woman is, she always sees her husband’s child with a different eye. Just a few exceptions,” she wrote.
She added, “Stepchildren go through a lot in the hands of stepmothers. Do not let your child experience the wickedness of a stepmother.”
The incident has sparked renewed conversation on social media about child protection, custody decisions and the emotional toll stepfamily dynamics can have on young people.
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